We live in horrendous times, times where sexual urges replace common sense, lust replace love, abuse replace care, manipulation replace sincere help and apathy replace empathy. A world full of selfishness, atrocities, guile, wickedness and inhumane practices.
When and how did we come to this?
Sexual urges are normal for everyone and must be a matter of concern when not experienced. It’s a beautiful thing that God created for you and I because He knew we wouldn’t live our best lives if we didn’t have such feelings. Or do you want to tell me you haven’t had sexual urge? Don’t lie o, I know you do!
But what happens when one’s sexual urge is out of control? What happens when common sense is thrown out of the window simply because one feels horny? What do you do? How do you handle it?
Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again. John 3:7
It boils down to one thing: being born again. This is first and foremost step to cure your uncontrolled sexual feelings. I know you are asking what being born again has to do with controlling one’s sexual feelings. Well, this is the major cure! A cure that is free of charge, needless of a penny, proven and tested. If I make ask you, what is the cure for sin? That’s right, repentance!
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; Galatians 5:19
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Cor 6:18
One night, Tade and his friend, Cynthia, were discussing about school work when he suddenly asked to see her nightie, making lewd remarks
She knew she had to stop the conversation in order to save them from doing otherwise. She found it outrageous and asked him to stop making calls to her at night.
Many of us do not realize that sin is conceived through uncontrolled thoughts, birthed in words and (progressively) actions.
But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.  Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. James 1:14,15.
Being born again controls your thoughts through the Holy Spirit. It’s an experience that takes over your whole life, causing the flesh and it’s tendencies to die. Pressing further into a deeper intimacy with God brings about the outpouring of the Holy Spirit. I’ll talk about this later on.
 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; James 4:7,8.
This is the first cure to an uncontrolled lifestyle of sin, this is, the submission of yourself to God by being born again.
You’ll notice that I didn’t numerate the first point. This is because it is the crux of the matter, the almighty formula for overcoming sexual sins.
Prayers And The Word
Sam noticed that he always got weak and susceptible to the works of the flesh each time he didn’t start his day with prayer and the Word.
His former sin partner, Joke, will always entice him each time he was weak in his spirit man. He began doubting whether or not he had truly been born again.
There was a spiritual war between both of them and because he wasn’t growing spiritually with the Word and Prayers, he would often find himself on the laps of Joke.
"Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." 2 Timothy 2:15
One of the important things you must note as a young or even a stagnant believer is that, surrendering your life to Jesus Christ sets you at war with the devil and, this is why you may have an staunch growth if you remain complacent. This is because the devil is unhappy he has lost a follower, a son of his and a commissioner of his works.
Prayers and the Word must be your daily bread and tea if you truly want to be cured and overcome your uncontrolled sexual urges and feelings.
Being out of the devil’s nest, that is, forsaking your former lifestyle of uncontrolled sexual feeling requires that you stay under a matured believer. You may be asking why.
Let’s take this scenario: Chinedu, a new believer, had just gained admission into the University of Nigeria. He was also poor that he had no money for accommodation nor feeding. Coupled with that, he had no where to run to as everyone he knew deserted him. But he was determined not to allow his present state decide an outcome for his future.
Someone found him, took him in and cared for him until he was spiritually fit, financially stable and could fend for himself. Thankfully, this individual doubled as his caretaker and spiritual mentor.
After surrendering to God, follow up must take place. You should able to submit yourself to a mature believer(same sex) who will be able to tutor and guide you in the things of God. That’s what discipleship is all about. Apollos was discipled by Aquila and Priscilla. Acts 18:18-28
As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby: 1 Peter 2:2
This is very crucial in overcoming uncontrolled sexual urges. Please come along with me. You can be discipled by someone and not accountable to that person.
Accountability is the act of being accountable to, responsible for, answerable to someone.
Overcoming uncontrolled sexual urges may be swift at the beginning but you must bear in mind that, there will be temptations along the way. Sometimes, you may be faced with distractions and you may feel lonely. You need to talk to someone you can be accountable to. Someone who will not judge you but encourage and guide you.
Your triggers may be the videos you watch, movies, erotic novels, write-ups, persons, pictures etc which makes you have an uncontrolled/unripened sexual urge and feeling.
You need to do away with such things. Keep them far away from you. Discipline yourself not to have anything to do with such triggers and be transparent to God and yourself.
Dear Believer, we are at war against the enemy and this is why he won’t relent in making us fall. There are there three major devices the devil uses against a believer.
- The lust of the flesh
- The pride of life
- The lust of the eyes
May we all be overcomers of every uncontrolled sexual urges and feelings as we journey through life.
Here are some prayer points in overcoming sexual sins. This will really help as you journey on. Click here.
Till I come your way next time, do remain in God. Feel free to send me an email and chat me up on any of my social handles. God bless you.