Thank you for the letter you wrote to me last week. I understand that you are over 28 with a dozen of friends already married. I also understand how you feel each time your mom keeps reminding you of how old you are already without a husband, and also how your mom’s sister, aunty Maggie who doesn’t mind her business won’t stop telling you to “go and marry”.
From the tone of your letter, it seems like you are contemplating breaking away from your present relationship in order to settle down with a new uncle who’s been doting you of recent. I understand that this new uncle with whom you’ve had a number of conversations with doesn’t have a clear understanding of his purpose for living and moreover, hasn’t really found his identity in Christ. You said in your letter, that he has been buying you gifts and spoiling you lavishly, despite your refusal and you have begun giving it a thought.
Aunty, I know you are tempted to consider him due to frustration caused by the pressure to get married that’s been mounted on you by family and friends but can you please resist that temptation? Remember, no one has the power to put you under pressure except you allow it from within– ED Jacob.
Furthermore, you made me understand that one of the major reasons why you are having a second thought about this relationship you told me you were convinced about here, is because he hasn’t said anything about the date yet. I also learnt that each time you bring up the topic of fixing a wedding date, he tells you not to worry about it and that soon you’ll get married. But you are afraid that soon is beginning to look like eternity.
Can I be frank with you? I think why you seem to be uneasy and worried about the whole situation is because you aren’t in pursuit of your purpose for living. Can you please take this period to empower yourself in all aspects of life? This will keep you busy and will serve as a positive distraction from worry and anxiety.
If only you could understand how much time was needed to get Esther ready for the throne. How much time it took Ruth to recover fully and set her on the right path before meeting her Boaz, how much time it took Mary before birthing the Saviour of the world. Last but not the least, how much time it took Hannah to pray and seek the face of God before her Samuel came. If you truly understood all these, I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t be moved by the naysayers. While these women waited, they got preoccupied with getting equipped for the future. You should too.
One of the best things to do while waiting is to seek the face of the Lord. Look at what He says in John 14:18,
I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
It’s only a matter of time and you will have your desires granted.
Oh, by the way, it seems I just received a mail. You’ll have to wait for the next episode before I unload all the juicy details.
PS: Dear uncles, you’re not left behind. Kindly check here to read previous letters for you, while you anticipate the next one!
Do remain in God… Muaaah!