BreakUp is not an easy pathway to walk through especially when you have invested time, energy, emotions, money, etc. But we can’t deny the fact that deep down in our hearts, we know some relationships are worth breaking away from but when we think of the pain we will feel or cause that partner, we tend to discard our instincts and change our decisions.
Let me ask you a question, would you rather prefer temporal pleasures but long term struggles or short term struggles but eternal joys? Please read that line again. What’s your answer? No?
Here are five reasons why you should consider giving breakUp a call:
1.When Respect is no longer served at the Table
It’s no news that nobody likes to be disrespected. Each one of us crave love and respect in different ways from different people at different circumstances and when it’s not given, we feel disappointed and neglected. A wise saying goes thus, respect is reciprocal. But what do you do when your partner no longer reciprocates the respect been shown by you?
When he/she talks to you in manner less and obnoxious ways not minding your feelings and even in front of a third party. When he/she begins to justify the reasons for cheating on you and then play a fast one on called the guilt game. Would you rather keep receiving it in a bid to salvage your relationship? I advise you breakUp before it turns into an abuse. Remember, little drops of water makes a mighty ocean.
2. When your ideas/goals/dreams/ambitions are often belittled and thrown in the dark
Goals and dreams are what keep humans moving and hopeful about the future. So what happens when they are being slowly but steadily extinguished by your partner? Would you watch him/her rip off the little beam of hope that’s lightened up in your mind and soul?
Dream killers should be avoided like plagues. Remember, it doesn’t happen at once, it’s a gradual process.
3. When he/she quenches your love for God
A man/woman who doesn’t acknowledge his/her Creator shouldn’t be taken seriously. If you happen to bring up topics about God and you are being silenced, do not even think twice about staying back. I mean, what happens when you have no one else to turn to? Who would you look up to? Remember what the Psalmist said,
"I will lift up my eyes into the hills, from whence cometh my help? My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth".
Without the help of God, we are doomed.
4. When he/she pushes you to do things contrary to your convictions
Following guidelines from the Holy Book, we all know (even though most people shy away from this truth) that premarital sex is a sin. Imagine being in a relationship where a partner who is not just once but always pushing you to flaunt the rules of #NSTM and #NKTM (If you don’t know what that means, find out here), how do you expect to cope? Even if you refuse six days a week, I tell you, on the seventh, you will indulge. It’s either you both agree to stay off or you find yourself caught up in the act.
Don’t forget, “let’s just do it once” never stops at once. Hence, a partner that pushes you to do the things that are unlawful should be given a break up notice with your shoulder pads very high.
It’s better to have an angry partner then an angry God.
5. When he/she rips you off your self-confidence/esteem
The thing about self-confidence is this, it’s groomed from within and words have a great influence on it especially when it hasn’t been developed to maturity. Being in a relationship with a narcissist who often undermines your capabilities, subdue your prowess and the likes will make a shipwreck of you. Look at the words of J. M Barie,
The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease forever to be able to do it.-
Therefore, when your confidence has been destroyed, what is left of you are pieces. Would you still remain in a relationship where all you see is a shadow of yourself?
A wise man once said and I quote,
No relationship is perfect but red flags should never be ignored.
If all the points or one of them aforementioned are what you experience in your relationship, and your partner isn’t ready to change or turn a new leaf entirely, you should begin making plans to break up. Please never rely on changes that are made ‘because of you’. They could be prompted by you but they should not be made because of you. Changes should occur because an individual has decided to do it for the betterment of their lives because if not, it will backfire at you someday.
I won’t promise you that breaking up will be easy but each time you have doubt or try to change your mind despite the red flags flung at you, remember the question your future will ask you, “why? Why did you choose to remain?” Don’t let that question become a reality that will give you nightmares for the rest of your life.
Develop a thick skin and breakUp with that partner today. God’s grace is sufficient!
Till I come your way next time, please remain in God. Muaaah!!! Have you read this?
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