In recent times, it’s easy to have a relationship but quite difficult to have a right and sustainable relationship. But why is that so?
Well, successful relationships are like schools you get admitted into. It requires you to present an interest, get accepted, undergo tutoring, and sometimes this cycle doesn’t end. Unlike schools which you anticipate an end to, happy relationships never anticipate an end to it because the essential requirements are effectively demonstrated between couples.
Couples in happy relationships are often intentional about making it work and would always look for new possible ways to keep it alive. But there are five major bedrocks that will always help them through any difficult phase of which they must have possessed before entering into that relationship. Just like schools, there are requirements you definitely need before thinking of proposing an interest to be admitted into that institution.
1. You Must Possess Good Communication Skills
It’s one thing to talk or hear someone speak. It’s another thing to listen and communicate effectively.
Fred and Sophia are sweethearts from College who got married recently. Fred tried communicating to Sophia in front of his parents about where to spend their holidays.
Fred: Love, my mom can never be wrong about this holiday spot. You’ll enjoy yourself there. Besides, you’ve never been abroad before.
After they left his parent’s place, she told him how hurt she did feel about what he said. She told him it would have been better if he allowed her present her view or preferably said it this way:
“Babe, I think mom has a good point but I’d love to hear from you. What do you think? Probably, we can discuss this when we leave, is that fine by you?” That way it leaves an open cheque to whatever she prefers and it won’t just be him alone talking, they both can communicate.
In communicating with your partner, it can be tough if you do not learn the right act of listening and speaking. Remember, communication with a normal friend can be quite different from a person with whom you are in love with.
2.You Must Learn The Act Of Patience
This is a vital point for any successful relationship. Patience is a tool which suggests understanding, love and affection without even talking. When your partner seems to put you off multiple times and you just can’t find a way to express yourself upfront, patience helps. It was the act of patient that made Sophia, Fred’s sweetheart, delay before expressing her displeasure.
The act of patience helps you refrain from acting or reacting irrationally. When you’ve got patience, you will always give room for your partner when they seem to flop. Every relationship needs patience.
3.You Must Learn To Be Understanding.
Understanding is key in ensuring a peaceful relationship. There may be times when your partner does some things that seem to throw you off balance. Lack of understanding will only cause chaos. It is from the point of understanding that you will make you get the hang of what your partner is trying to pass across. Their act or point of view may not go down well with you at that instance, but understanding will help you know the factors that are responsible.
Please note, a good partner will never make you understand what’s evil because all he/she wants is what’s good for both of you.
4. You Must Be Ready To Work Hard
Speaking to one of my closest friend sometime ago about her relationship made me understand that successful relationships are not built on porous rocks. They require hard work.
Before entering into a relationship, you must ask yourself if you are ready to pay the price because great relationships don’t just happen by chance. Individuals concerned must be willing to fight for the good of their relationship which requires that both of you invest time, energy and resources and your space. Please note that hard work doesn’t push you beyond your convictions and limits. Know more about this here.
5. You Must Have God
Do you really want to get into the right relationship? This is the most important fact. The G-factor. Some claim to know God but it’s mere knowledge and not experientially.
Look at it this way, you may know a person from a distance and may sometimes smile at each other but it’s different when you accept that person into your life. That’s just the same way it is with God. I’m pretty sure you are wondering how you can have Him. Find out here.
Nowadays, it’s difficult to differentiate the bad eggs from the good ones because of the intense deceit and evil in the world. You need the Saviour, our Lord Jesus, to enable you discern good from evil. Don’t forget that faith without works is dead. So therefore, God + work= Excellent Success. Please never forget that prayer is key. It is a the miracle tool for sustainability.
I hope you’ve been blessed by this blog post. Please drop a comment and share with your friends. I’ll love to hear from you. Do remain in God.